5 Signs to know an Abusive Partner

Abusive Partner

Is a person in a relationship who often wants to be in power and control of the relationship. According to a report by World Health Organisation(WHO), ”intimate partner violence is one of the most forms of violence against women and includes physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and controlling behaviors by an intimate partner”

Emotional Blackmail

Emotional blackmail is a form of abuse that manipulates people through threats in order to get what they want. This type of abuse happens mostly in close relationships. Blackmailers will use negative information they have learned about their partner to manipulate and make demands.

Most often, abusers use personal information for blackmailing, thereby making their victims vulnerable and pressured to give in to their demands. Blackmailers will do anything to get what they desire without consideration for their partners.

Communication Control

People who are abusive are also control freaks. They go out of their way to snoop for information. Such partners may try to monitor your communication with other people. They may ask to read your texts and emails, log into your devices without permission, or even install tracking software to keep tabs on your social life. They will frequently use this against you later. They’re uncomfortable when they don’t have information about you.

Financial Control

It’s not uncommon for couples to argue about money or bills. But in an abusive relationship, the controlling partner will work towards removing their partner’s control over their own finances. This is intended to discourage you from spending, or earning money, and talk less of making decisions as to how money should be spent.

The abuser makes it difficult for you to leave the relationship. The aim of the abusive person is to cut off access to your accounts, withhold funds from you, and worse still, try to make you quit your job. Their ultimate goal is to gain complete financial authority over their partner. Nonetheless, this causes fear and anxiety over leaving the relationship and losing money and in most cases this compels the abuser to remain in the relationship.

Physical Violence

Domestic violence does not begin in a day, it’s a gradual process that often starts with a little push or slap. Initially, it may seem playful but as it progresses and is tolerated, it becomes more violent.

Physical abuse is used to maintain or gain power, authority, and control in a relationship. An abuser uses hurtful words and tyrannical behaviors to control the partner. However, the greatest misdeed is for an abuser to raise hands over a partner by throwing punches and using dangerous weapons. Many women have died as a result of domestic violence, where they are battered to their death

Notwithstanding the fact that men are more abusive than women in a relationship, however, there are cases where women are the abusers’. The Court case between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard shows that some women are guilty of abuse. Although a Jury found both Amber and Johnny liable for defamation in their lawsuits, but Depp was awarded more in compensatory damages.

Final Thought

An abusive relationship is a keg of gun powder ready to explode without warning. If you are in an abusive relationship, your best bet is to quit and leave. Plan well ahead before leaving and get the services of a psychologist if you don’t know how to go about it.

Let your family and trusted friends know about your plans of leaving your partner. Also, let them know your next action and where you are heading to. For the reason, that if your abusive partner knows that someone has information about your plans and whereabouts, the chances of stalking will be prevented or reduced. Take action now and get out of that brutish relationship before it gets too late.